Comments on: Is she really manipulating?

By: rbdans

rbdans — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 07:01:00 +0000

Did another post as the comments got too long..

By: utbtkids

utbtkids — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 04:31:00 +0000

Rbdans, you can kill yourself with guilt and provide her attention with every moment you can spare. But according to D, it is still not 100%, like it was a few months back. Soon will come a phase when the Dlittle will also contribute to the drama by playing with your guilt. Your life is fairly simple now, so enjoy it.

D is just manipulating you. Chula does the same, when she is getting it from me, she suddenly screams for some one else. When we had returned from India, it was always, ‘I want to go to thatha, patti, P chithi’. Couple of weeks back it was ‘I want to go away to Bostol(Boston) to be with P chithi. I don’t want you, go away’.(P chithi recently visited us and showered her with unconditional love thats is why).All this didn’t bother me. But for the past week it is ‘I want to go home’. When I tell her she is at home, she says, ‘No. School is my home. I want to be with M(her day care provider) mommy’ and that REALLY gets me. So if I come crying, kicking and screaming with a post about me hitting Chula…the reason I hit her must be because she called M her mommy and the day care her home.

By: Poppins

Poppins — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 18:13:00 +0000

Hey. She does miss her naani and you silly girl, it has nothing to do with the lack of love you provide or anything. Grandmas are special, different from moms.

Everyone has given you such good suggestions, hopefully one of them should work !

By: timepass

timepass — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 17:26:00 +0000

Poor child, she is missing her naani a lot. Hopefully u will be able to tide over this period.

By: Kodi's Mom

Kodi's Mom — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 15:28:00 +0000

I dont know if she is manipulating…she probably misses her a whole lot and is getting creative abt expressing it. I wouldn’t doubt your capactity to provide love…I’m sure the fact taht you acknowledge her emotions will go a long way. maybe get some books/tv shows on the theme and explain to her that grandmas visit and leave and visit again?

By: ~nm

~nm — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 15:07:00 +0000

Awww….poor little baby! She is really missing her Naani! Hugs to her!

By: Moppet's Mom

Moppet's Mom — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 12:16:00 +0000

Oh poor D… and poor you too! She must still be missing her Naani. I agree with mnamma – maybe you need to find another reason why naani’s gone away…and maybe try and spin a story around when she’ll come back.

Don’t be so hard on yourself – you’re doing the best you can!

By: dame's diary

dame's diary — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 11:41:00 +0000

Cheer up momma…
You are doing your best…

By: Tharini

Tharini — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 03:12:00 +0000

I think she’s still getting used to your mom’s absence. Give her some time. Children have a way of rebounding soon enough. You sound like u are doing a wonderful job, so pat yourself on the back.

By: mnamma

mnamma — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 23:55:00 +0000

Rbdans,
I don’t think D feels left out or less loved or anything like that. I think she just misses her Nani so much. Try giving her another reason besides making mummam for Nana. And make sure that D communicates as often as she wants with Nani over the phone. This might help a little bit. I can understand how difficult it must be taking care of the infant and a toddler yearning for attention.

By: Random Vignettes

Random Vignettes — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 20:08:00 +0000

awwww…am so sorry ur feeling bad. But dont worry little ones are usually resilient little ones…ur love for her will be mroe than enough..ul see..:)