Comments on: My Kid is the Best, No? http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/ Tue, 29 Jun 2010 18:18:04 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: DDmom http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12628 DDmom Sat, 05 Sep 2009 09:05:26 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12628 @Abha: yes, am back :) Plan to do weekend blogging regularly. Lets see. <br/> @WIAN: Thankoo. Glad to hear from someone who actually has an older kid, that gives hope to be able to walk the talk when time comes. <br/> COS: Hey, where were you? Been a while I spotted you around. D does that too, and I am partially to blame.. like at times when I would put 2 glasses of milk on the table and out of sheer desperation to get it down their throat - say - lets see who finishes first. They hear this -first-second- way too often and we cannot shield them from that. As you said, we just try and explain them that participation is important and that only one person can be first, one cannot be first in everything. @Abha: yes, am back :) Plan to do weekend blogging regularly. Lets see.

@WIAN: Thankoo. Glad to hear from someone who actually has an older kid, that gives hope to be able to walk the talk when time comes.

COS: Hey, where were you? Been a while I spotted you around. D does that too, and I am partially to blame.. like at times when I would put 2 glasses of milk on the table and out of sheer desperation to get it down their throat – say – lets see who finishes first. They hear this -first-second- way too often and we cannot shield them from that. As you said, we just try and explain them that participation is important and that only one person can be first, one cannot be first in everything.

]]> By: Collection Of Stars http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12608 Collection Of Stars Fri, 04 Sep 2009 12:12:41 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12608 Hey, I did not know that you were back :) Loved your post. I cannot even begin to imagine what the child must be going through with a parent who expects her to be the best in class. KT believes that she has to be first in everything and she is not yet at the age where she is really competing with others; I really don't know where she got the idea from. At home, we keep trying to teach her that participation is more important and that she has to be sportive. I am not sure if she gets this though. Hey, I did not know that you were back :)
Loved your post. I cannot even begin to imagine what the child must be going through with a parent who expects her to be the best in class.

KT believes that she has to be first in everything and she is not yet at the age where she is really competing with others; I really don’t know where she got the idea from.
At home, we keep trying to teach her that participation is more important and that she has to be sportive. I am not sure if she gets this though.

]]> By: whatsinaname http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12491 whatsinaname Sat, 29 Aug 2009 09:58:17 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12491 :D Let me echo your sentiments - Glad to see you are back too! I guess we do need some time to recharge and I hope that now you are back for good! This is an awesome post. I admit I have been guilty of being upset at times when my daughters did not perform upto my expectations but like you mentioned, I am trying to learn good things and delearn the bad ones with time. The day 10th board results were out this year and my daughter was crying in fear of "what if I score badly"-syndrome, I really really felt all that you have written above. I just want them happy. Period. Let them be happy in whatever they do. Thats my only prayer now. As for the other parent, I pray that God grants her better sense soon ! :D Let me echo your sentiments – Glad to see you are back too! I guess we do need some time to recharge and I hope that now you are back for good!

This is an awesome post. I admit I have been guilty of being upset at times when my daughters did not perform upto my expectations but like you mentioned, I am trying to learn good things and delearn the bad ones with time. The day 10th board results were out this year and my daughter was crying in fear of “what if I score badly”-syndrome, I really really felt all that you have written above. I just want them happy. Period. Let them be happy in whatever they do. Thats my only prayer now.
As for the other parent, I pray that God grants her better sense soon !

]]> By: Abha http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12475 Abha Fri, 28 Aug 2009 13:49:11 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12475 wow!! you are back! :) and before this post, i LOVED your anniversary post!! lifetime of happiness wished for you guys!! and yeah! these demanding parents are scary! and i feel for the kids! i mean yeah i am happy if someone tells me my kid is doing well, but i dont want my kid to be the BEST or whatever! :) is your number still the same? will call ya one of these days! cheers! wow!! you are back! :) and before this post, i LOVED your anniversary post!! lifetime of happiness wished for you guys!!

and yeah! these demanding parents are scary! and i feel for the kids! i mean yeah i am happy if someone tells me my kid is doing well, but i dont want my kid to be the BEST or whatever! :)

is your number still the same? will call ya one of these days!

cheers!

]]> By: DDmom http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12472 DDmom Fri, 28 Aug 2009 12:55:42 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12472 @Payal: Welcome here. And thanks for the mention. <br/> @Rohini: That child is a sweet little kid, she played the main character of a 15 minute skit, must have spoken atleast 30-40 sentence. Clear and crisp. Hopefully she enjoys what she does and not due to parental pressure. <br/> @choxbox: Nice to see you here. That in itself is a good enough struggle. Why take more? @Payal: Welcome here. And thanks for the mention.

@Rohini: That child is a sweet little kid, she played the main character of a 15 minute skit, must have spoken atleast 30-40 sentence. Clear and crisp. Hopefully she enjoys what she does and not due to parental pressure.

@choxbox: Nice to see you here. That in itself is a good enough struggle. Why take more?

]]> By: choxbox http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12456 choxbox Thu, 27 Aug 2009 15:13:32 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12456 hi DDmom. didn't know you were blogging again :) absolutely with you on competing with self bit. hi DDmom. didn’t know you were blogging again :)

absolutely with you on competing with self bit.

]]> By: Rohini http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12454 Rohini Thu, 27 Aug 2009 15:00:08 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12454 Whoa! Someone needs to teach that mom a lesson in etiquette. And I feel for her poor child - imagine the pressure! Whoa! Someone needs to teach that mom a lesson in etiquette. And I feel for her poor child – imagine the pressure!

]]> By: Perfect Poppin « Babies Anonymous http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12450 Perfect Poppin « Babies Anonymous Thu, 27 Aug 2009 11:41:16 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12450 [...] a lot of times, I have tried to change. Now I’m still nowhere like the pushy mom that DDmom writes about, but I am a lot better at acknowledging the goodness of my children in company (doting [...] [...] a lot of times, I have tried to change. Now I’m still nowhere like the pushy mom that DDmom writes about, but I am a lot better at acknowledging the goodness of my children in company (doting [...]

]]> By: Payal http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12448 Payal Thu, 27 Aug 2009 08:06:53 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12448 Hello.... i enjoyed reading your post... i have also mentioned your blog in my post ... Living Parenting Online... http://www.ripplelinks.com/blog.html Regards Payal Hello…. i enjoyed reading your post… i have also mentioned your blog in my post … Living Parenting Online… http://www.ripplelinks.com/blog.html

Regards

Payal

]]> By: DDmom http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12345 DDmom Fri, 21 Aug 2009 08:32:31 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12345 @noon: So nice to see you hear. I thought I had lost all my regular readers, rightfully so. That ID is not active, I hadn't logged in to it for more than a year and yahoo disabled it. I need to email you as well.. I had just abruptly cut of the previous thread we had going.. I did not potty train Dlittle, it just happened ) <br/> @MNIamma:It is going to take a little while to get uses to "i". As per doctor, the allergies will hopefully subside by age 8 or so. Or leave Bangalore and move to another city, he says :( @noon: So nice to see you hear. I thought I had lost all my regular readers, rightfully so. That ID is not active, I hadn’t logged in to it for more than a year and yahoo disabled it. I need to email you as well.. I had just abruptly cut of the previous thread we had going..
I did not potty train Dlittle, it just happened )

@MNIamma:It is going to take a little while to get uses to “i”. As per doctor, the allergies will hopefully subside by age 8 or so. Or leave Bangalore and move to another city, he says :(

]]> By: DDmom http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12344 DDmom Fri, 21 Aug 2009 08:27:55 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12344 @Tharini: So true, the last line. I am lucky that way, as husband is totally against examinations and grading system anyways. As for other people around - I guess we can listen in, but at the end of the day do what we think is better for the kid. Because, only the parent is responsible and answerable to our kids at later stage. <br/> @poppy: Not many, thats the good news. Even when this parent said that statement, I had a feeling the rest of the parents in the class were as dumbstruck as me. And yes, I am so like you. Someone praises me or my kids, instead of a gracious thankyou, I'll start beating myself to death. Sigh!! D is doing pretty good, was just a hypothetical situation I was putting myself into, and honestly I don't know if I will stand up to it if that day ever comes. <br/> @k3: The kid was with her all the time. And yes, I feel more for the kid for having to live through such expectations at a very young age. <br/> @Swati: Well said. The more he enjoys, the more he will continue to learn. @Tharini: So true, the last line. I am lucky that way, as husband is totally against examinations and grading system anyways. As for other people around – I guess we can listen in, but at the end of the day do what we think is better for the kid. Because, only the parent is responsible and answerable to our kids at later stage.

@poppy: Not many, thats the good news. Even when this parent said that statement, I had a feeling the rest of the parents in the class were as dumbstruck as me.

And yes, I am so like you. Someone praises me or my kids, instead of a gracious thankyou, I’ll start beating myself to death. Sigh!!

D is doing pretty good, was just a hypothetical situation I was putting myself into, and honestly I don’t know if I will stand up to it if that day ever comes.

@k3: The kid was with her all the time. And yes, I feel more for the kid for having to live through such expectations at a very young age.

@Swati: Well said. The more he enjoys, the more he will continue to learn.

]]> By: MNIAMMA http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12341 MNIAMMA Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:51:41 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12341 I hope DDidi's allergies are better DDMOm. And such an irritating character - the all rounder's Mom. "Provide them with the exposure and stimulation, and they will sure turn out to be the best in their own form" - So very true :) I hope DDidi’s allergies are better DDMOm. And such an irritating character – the all rounder’s Mom. “Provide them with the exposure and stimulation, and they will sure turn out to be the best in their own form” – So very true :)

]]> By: noon http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12324 noon Thu, 20 Aug 2009 06:16:39 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12324 Hey!! You have been blogging and I didn't even know! I thought you just wanted to be left alone and so I just let it be...have had friends suddenly disappear that way for some years even...and then return to being in touch. OMG - so much to catch up on. I can't believe Dlittle is potty trained - I have not even remotely started the process. OK, will just mail you - hope you still have the same id? Hey!! You have been blogging and I didn’t even know! I thought you just wanted to be left alone and so I just let it be…have had friends suddenly disappear that way for some years even…and then return to being in touch.
OMG – so much to catch up on. I can’t believe Dlittle is potty trained – I have not even remotely started the process. OK, will just mail you – hope you still have the same id?

]]> By: Swati http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12322 Swati Thu, 20 Aug 2009 04:35:19 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12322 LOL..I feel like laughing at the parent and I pity the child. Why do parents expect so much from their kids. I don't expect Aryan to be best. I want him to enjoy his day and enjoy his learning time and stay happy..thats what is needed at this age. And if he enjoys it today and learn to enjoy , he would sure grow up to enjoy learning times. Frankly I dont believe in BEST word. You cannot be perfect. You need to keep learning and exploring. LOL..I feel like laughing at the parent and I pity the child. Why do parents expect so much from their kids. I don’t expect Aryan to be best. I want him to enjoy his day and enjoy his learning time and stay happy..thats what is needed at this age. And if he enjoys it today and learn to enjoy , he would sure grow up to enjoy learning times.

Frankly I dont believe in BEST word. You cannot be perfect. You need to keep learning and exploring.

]]> By: K3 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12320 K3 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:06:11 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12320 What a horrid question? I do hope her own child wasn't with her at that time - Can you imagine growing up in that kind of an environment - the constant need to prove your worth to your own parents? Ouch! BTW, hope D is doing well now and keeps up her good health. What a horrid question? I do hope her own child wasn’t with her at that time – Can you imagine growing up in that kind of an environment – the constant need to prove your worth to your own parents? Ouch!

BTW, hope D is doing well now and keeps up her good health.

]]> By: Poppy http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12299 Poppy Wed, 19 Aug 2009 05:49:21 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12299 Wow. I didn't know that species of over competitive parent still existed in our generation! I actually get embarrassed if my child gets too much praise from the teacher especially if there's another parent in close hearing. The last time there was a group meeting (on how to teach phonics to children at home) the directress kept going on about how D is so focused and determined and won't go down and even eat her snack because she wants to finish the task -blah blah. I got so embarrassed (stupid I know!) that I actually said - that's not determined, that's just stubbornness and gave a lame heh heh. Needless to say, the teacher was shocked, thought I was a hopeless parent who couldn't see anything good about my child :) But I'm just rambling here. I wouldn't worry about D1 being the last in the class, she won't be, not with the kind of involved parent you are, and I know that you've got that part down to a pat about wanting her to do the best she can and not competing with others. Wow. I didn’t know that species of over competitive parent still existed in our generation!

I actually get embarrassed if my child gets too much praise from the teacher especially if there’s another parent in close hearing. The last time there was a group meeting (on how to teach phonics to children at home) the directress kept going on about how D is so focused and determined and won’t go down and even eat her snack because she wants to finish the task -blah blah. I got so embarrassed (stupid I know!) that I actually said – that’s not determined, that’s just stubbornness and gave a lame heh heh. Needless to say, the teacher was shocked, thought I was a hopeless parent who couldn’t see anything good about my child :)

But I’m just rambling here. I wouldn’t worry about D1 being the last in the class, she won’t be, not with the kind of involved parent you are, and I know that you’ve got that part down to a pat about wanting her to do the best she can and not competing with others.

]]> By: Tharini http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/2009/08/18/my-kid-is-the-best-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12294 Tharini Wed, 19 Aug 2009 00:46:46 +0000 http://penningmythoughts.com/ddmomsweblog/?p=196#comment-12294 Even with time, even if D comes at the bottom, your attitude towards this will not change. You will talk to her about putting in her best, but I don't forsee any pressure from you on her to be the best in her class. Loved reading your thoughts on this, and I feel the same way...only it is difficult to keep people around you happy...those whohave a diff. set of expectations. Even with time, even if D comes at the bottom, your attitude towards this will not change. You will talk to her about putting in her best, but I don’t forsee any pressure from you on her to be the best in her class.

Loved reading your thoughts on this, and I feel the same way…only it is difficult to keep people around you happy…those whohave a diff. set of expectations.

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