Comments on: What do you do?

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 04:47:43 +0000

@utbtkids, That's an excellent point you make, just that I don't have that kind of patience and most of the time I end up acting before thinking. So far I have been treating Dlittle as a diaper-baby and all my parenting focus unintentionally has been on D. Now, I am trying to use the same tone and language with both the kids and reward D heavily when she listens in spite of Dlittle brushing it off as though she did not hear a word. That seems to work. And the more it works, the more Dlittle is realising it is good to be good. The little one simply loves copying whatever her older sister does, and this theory seems to work for now.

By: utbtkids

utbtkids — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 01:09:48 +0000

Like every one pointed out, it is the same story in our household too.
Now, before I correct Chula, before I try ironing all the nitty grittiness, I pause and think, what would I do if it were the second one.

I know it cannot be applied to all scenarios because every child is different. But it has stopped me from telling Chula small things like chew with your mouth closed, walk – don’t – run, keep your voice down etc.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 08:27:19 +0000

@Shobana, I know it is cute and funny. Hopefully D will take it this well in the growing up years too. Dlittle on the other hand enjoys doing these little nautankis and would wait for us to respond with a giggle. At times, when we deliberately don't giggle, she would repeat it few times and then sulk. Total drama queen. But, somewhere go to find a balance, so Dlittle know where to draw the line. Easier said!

By: DDmom

DDmom — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 08:25:02 +0000

@mystic margarita, Enjoy, MM. That time will come sooner or later, when they wont like to do any nautanki's and we would even crave for it at times.(I am at that stage with D, she will just say thats too silly. I can't do it )

By: DDmom

DDmom — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 08:23:31 +0000

@Trish, FUN, you said F.U.N?? Actually, it is. Seeing them bond over each other, seeing D enjoy her sisters antics, it is really fun. Hope this saga continues when they are teens and start to assert their different personalities.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 08:21:43 +0000

@Collection Of Stars, Tell me about it. Hmph!

By: DDmom

DDmom — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 08:20:55 +0000

@whatsinaname, “the two sort out their differences.” – Sure, as long as they don’t kill each others As for taking sides, I have given enough grief to my mom, and know very well that it will come back to me one day.

By: Shobana

Shobana — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 16:34:37 +0000

Sorry for saying this, but it does sound very cute and funny. At the same time, I can imagine, how it can be frustrating too. Though difficult, just laugh along and enjoy it when you still can…maybe this won’t last forever. I mean the bratiness will, but the cuteness quotient will decrease and diminish over time.

By: mystic margarita

mystic margarita — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 06:22:49 +0000

I hear you! Popol is very bratty and most times, I give in to giggles, totally taken in by his nautanki when I should be more firm.

By: Trish

Trish — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 02:35:15 +0000

Hahahahhaa…this is so much F-U-N!!!

By: Collection Of Stars

Collection Of Stars — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 11:29:21 +0000

It sure is difficult being an older child. Poor ones!

By: whatsinaname

whatsinaname — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 05:04:28 +0000

lol
Welcome to the club. After a while, when the cuteness vanishes I feel like locking myself inside some room while the two sort out their differences.
And whatever you do, it always ends up that you are taking side

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 04:11:09 +0000

@m2knp, Yup. We can blog, so if-when our older ones happen to read about them, they would at least know that we acknowledged the fact.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 04:09:28 +0000

@cantaloupes’s amma (CA), Being a first born myself, I so know it is not fair Most of her antics are enjoyed by the older one as well. But there are times when she gets really frustrated. Like -why I have to eat 2 vegetables and she won’t touch even one of them. How do I explain to her, that I am trying and failing miserably with the second one.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 04:06:45 +0000

@yaadayaada, You'll put me in a soup. I wouldn't know which side to take, me-being-the-first-born-and-neglected OR it-is-ok-to-spoil-the-second-borns.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:57:10 +0000

@Tharini, Why do you think I am unable to put that stern face? Somewhere deep inside I don’t want to

At first D used to get annoyed a lot, but now for the most part, she enjoys her little sisters nautanki’s as well. I guess it’s her friends influence, the more her friends run behind Dlittle claiming she is choo cuteee.., the more cute D finds her cute.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:52:00 +0000

@Swati, Laugh now, we'll talk when your get to this stage with 2.

By: DDmom

DDmom — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:50:38 +0000

@Poppy, err.. I do that all the time. What to do, my life is centered around them I got a glimpse of your little one, she knows what she wants Their cuteness however overrides everything else. They are in for a rude shock when they overgrow their cuteness stage. Or will they?

By: m2knp

m2knp — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 18:25:51 +0000

another second child trend!
what can we do, but blog abt it & wonder where on earth they pick this up from. certainly not from the gentler & kinder older sibling!

By: cantaloupes's amma (CA)

cantaloupes's amma (CA) — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 16:05:14 +0000

I hear you sister … having the same problem in our house as well. And I kind of sympathise the older one … she is not allowed somethings which her sister can easily get away with … not fair at all !

By: yaadayaada

yaadayaada — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 13:44:08 +0000

Yeah Yeah! Spoil the younger ones! Let me go start a club for the neglected disadvantaged first kids!!

By: Tharini

Tharini — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 13:38:15 +0000

I have to go Poppy’s route…and complain (but most indulgently) about the little guy. He scartches, he yells, he scolds, he throws and every d.a.r.n thing is cute, while also being highly annoying to senior. Poor guy. Its tough being the older one.

But I plan to enjoy this brattiness, cos pretty soon, I am going to be donning the disciplining hat when it stops being cute!

By: Swati

Swati — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 12:05:53 +0000

hahhaha..too good

By: Poppy

Poppy — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 10:28:54 +0000

Ahhh. Ok I hate doing this – coming up with ‘you know what mine did?’ tales but with people I know (like you, Kodi’s mom, noon etc) I can’t seem to stop myself.

My little one is a rowdy. She HITS and pummels the older one who gets so angry sometimes that she grits her teeth in frustration. Recently younger one she hit me in anger and when I held her hands, you know what she did – she spat. yes she did. I was shocked! Today, we laugh at her antics but inside I am worrying about her bratti-ness!